I was quietly suicidal for years and no one knew. Transition cured that. This society prizes conformity and superficiality almost as much as it promotes wrath and violence. Although it is critical that our needs for things like physical safety, food, shelter, medical care, etc., get met if we are not to be miserable, to be happy we also must live in a way that allows others to at least catch glimpses of our souls.
Despite the nonsense being spouted by the Christian right (a) transition greatly improves the mental health and happiness of transgender people and (b) cases of individuals who regret transition are very rare.
One of the primary causes of suicide in trans people is being unable to transition. I used to wake up every morning with not wanting to be alive any more on the back burner of my mind. I had quietly worked out how I could do it. I didn’t kill myself mainly because I was concerned about how it would affect people I cared about. Yes, gender dysphoria can hurt that much.
Although my life since transition has certainly been difficult at times, I have not had even a single day when I wanted to throw away my wonderful new life as myself!
“We identified 56 studies published since 1991 that directly assessed the effect of gender transition on the mental well-being of transgender individuals. The vast majority of the studies, 93 percent, found that gender transition improved the overall well-being of transgender subjects, making them more likely to enjoy improved quality of life, greater relationship satisfaction and higher self-esteem and confidence, and less likely to suffer from anxiety, depression, substance abuse and suicidality.
Only four studies (7 percent) reported mixed or null findings, and none found that the transitioning created more harm than good. Despite recent media focus on anecdotes about “transgender regret,” actual regret rates across numerous studies were minuscule, generally ranging from 0.3 percent to 3.8 percent. Our review of primary research confirmed the positive findings of at least 16 previous literature reviews.”