I am briefly home–need to change clothes to go to a musical event and dinner!–after being at my hairdresser, a woman who has been doing my hair for years. We were discussing the Trans Day of Visibility. She said, “You don’t present as trans. You’re very natural in the way you act. You just come across as a normal, feminine woman.”
That is what happens when you finally gain enough confidence to relax and go with your natural impulses and inclinations without thinking about it.
As Oscar Wilde noted, you might as well be yourself. Everyone else is taken.