Yesterday I was wearing an outfit very similar to what this model has on. This image is lifted from a web site called Design Darling, and while I was not wearing a Ralph Lauren  sweater with Tieks as she is, it was pretty darn close.

My coloring is such that I can get away with wearing pink and sometimes do.

At a social gathering yesterday, I ran into a trans man friend of mine. He grinned at me, and said, “My, aren’t you pretty in pink!”

He was wearing a blue flannel man’s shirt with khaki pants that I suspect were from L.L. Bean, men’s brown shoes, and a navy-blue windbreaker. I pointed out that he was decked out in blue, and said,  “Aren’t we a couple of stereotypes!”

We had a good laugh at ourselves.

We binary transgender people probably adhere more closely than cisgender folks do to traditional rules of gender expression such as the blue vs. pink distinction because, first of all–and most importantly–it feels incredibly good and ever so affirming to finally be able to express through your clothing who you have always been on the inside!

Secondly, clothing is a set of social signals that tells others about who we are and gives them a clue about how we want to be treated.

These days I almost always get read as a cisgender female with all the perks and problems that come with that status. In addition to that, my clothing, I hope, tells others that I have good taste and that within the limits of my budget select for well-made and attractive clothing.

I am a lady. Please treat me as one.



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